Words that drive action
During bulk cooking today I felt like I had a really great conversation about how I chat, how I negotiate...or...don’t. In the background of all my conversations is a fear of letting someone down and then getting frustrated that they’ve put me in this position. I forecast and anticipate a lot of what it is they want from me. And very accurately, she pointed out it appears a lot when I have to say ‘no.’ Then instead of giving a response that drives any action, I talk about how it makes me feel and talk about my circumstance. Not what I want or what I can do. I just explain. (IF) If I notice I am explaining my circumstance or when I am battling myself on a decision. (THEN) I will check if I can I put out words that drives an action? (ELSE) If not, then check if I driving for perfection? Am I too focused on forecasting what someone is thinking or feeling? Or do I just need more information?